5 Ways You Can Rediscover Your Sparkle in Menopause

By Cathy Fletcher

Menopause can be a confusing stage of your life where you can start to not feel like yourself anymore. It’s often framed as an ending of youth, energy or vitality, but that story is completely untrue. What many women experience in menopause is not a loss of sparkle, but a tricky transition period that requires a new form of care, attention and compassion. These sudden changes can feel disorientating; however, you can use ethos as a chance to rediscover yourself, inviting you to create a deeper relationship with yourself. Finding the sparkle that’s already within yourself during menopause isn’t about becoming who you were or even who you want to be; it’s about honouring and enjoying who you are now. 

So without further ado, if you’re struggling to discover your sparkle, here are 5 ways to find it again, so you can start to feel like yourself again. 

1. Redefine what ‘feeling good’ looks like

During earlier stages of life, feeling good may have looked like pushing through fatigue or juggling 5 things in life without a break. However, menopause calls for a different approach. Feeling good now may include a slower morning, a casual morning walk with a coffee, or even staying in bed for longer if you feel like it. All that matters is that you’re listening to your body without guilt or overexpectation. This redefinition of feeling good is powerful because it releases you from outdated expectations and allows your body to lead your daily activities. When you free yourself from former expectations and listen to what you need in the present moment, your sparkle begins to feel authentic again.

2. Prioritize nervous system care

Menopause can heighten stress, anxiety and emotional sensitivity due to hormonal shifts, which can affect mental and physical well-being. Instead of viewing these shifts as weaknesses, you should consider them as an invitation to care for your nervous system more intentionally through specific life changes. Gentle exercises like walking, searching, and even yoga can have a profound impact by regulating cortisol levels and helping you to clear your mind. Also, creating a sense of safety and calm in your daily life such as meditation and solid planning and organisation, can also help to regulate mood, improve sleep and restore inner glow that no product can replicate.  

3. Reconnect with your body

For many women, menopause brings complicated feelings about their bodies as they experience weight, skin and energy changes. This can cause a lot of hatred, frustration and self-criticism, which can be damaging your mental and physical health. Recovering your sparkle requires a shift away from punishment and a move towards partnership with your body. Movement becomes nourishment, not correction, by choosing enjoyable and soothing hobbies such as dancing, swimming and yoga. When your body feels supported and cared for, rather than judged and exhausted, confidence in yourself can return in the form of self-love.

4. Create rituals that feel personal

Luxury during menopause doesn’t have to be expensive or flashy, but rather intentional and personal to your needs. Small rituals can ground you and make you appreciate the mind and body that you have. This might be a skin-care routine, journaling before bed, treating yourself to your favourite takeaway once a month, or even wearing your favourite pink sapphire jewelry on a normal day out to feel special. These rituals signal to your nervous system that you are valued, helping you to reconnect with the simple pleasures of life and see you and your new body in a new and positive light.

5. Allow yourself to evolve without apology

Menopause often brings clarity about what no longer fits, whether that’s roles, relationships or habits that don’t bring positivity to your life and even drain you. Embracing these evolutions and changes that have presented themselves gives you the opportunity to evaluate your current life and improve it through embracing these changes. You may find yourself less interested in pleasing others and therefore leave behind toxic relationships, and focus on things that feel more meaningful. This is not selfish; it’s wisdom. Your sparkle grows when you give yourself permission to change, take up spaces in different ways and honour the woman that you are becoming.