If you’re a woman over 50 who’s dating again, you already know: this stage is completely different from your younger years. You’re wiser, you know yourself better, and you certainly don’t need to settle. But that doesn’t automatically make dating simple—especially if you keep attracting the same man in a different shirt.
Love at Any Age is all about breaking that cycle. In this article, Let me walk you through the core ideas from the 1st episode so you can start shifting your patterns today.
Watch Episode 1: Love at Any Age
Why Dating After 50 Requires a Different Approach
When you’re not building a family or merging finances anymore, you gain a huge advantage: you don’t have to settle.
You get to choose someone who fits your life now—not someone who just checks boxes. But that freedom brings a challenge many women overlook.
The #1 Mistake Women Over 50 Make in Dating
Most women don’t believe they can have all three parts of a great relationship at the same time:
Head: the practical match
Heart: the emotional match
Hoo-ha: the attraction and chemistry
Without realizing it, you start treating these as trade-offs:
- The hot, exciting guy… but unstable.
- The practical, reliable guy… but zero spark.
- The emotionally connected guy… but your lifestyles don’t align.
When you believe you can’t have all three, you keep choosing patterns you already know.
My Old Pattern (And the Click That Changed Everything)
Before I met my husband, I swung between two types of relationships:
- The thrilling-but-not-into-me guy
- The sensible-but-no-spark guy
Back and forth, head vs. hoo-ha, with my heart underfed in both.
The real breakthrough came when I finally saw: I was choosing the same pattern on repeat.
That awareness created what I call the click—the moment I decided I was done settling for “either/or” and ready to hold out for “all three.” I met my husband the very same day.
Coincidence? Maybe. But mindset always shifts your options.
A Quick Exercise: Spot Your Pattern
Think of the last few people you’ve dated or loved. For each one, ask:
- What worked for my head?
- What worked for my heart?
- What worked for my hoo-ha?
Then look for the theme. Most women only have one or two repeating patterns—and once you see it, you can change it.
When Your Past Is Still Running the Show
If breaking your pattern feels hard, you’re not wrong. Your past—family dynamics, heartbreak, old beliefs—might still be steering the ship. In Episode 2, we dig deeper into this because understanding your past is essential to creating a different future.
Just remember: you’re not broken. You’re patterned. And patterns can be changed.
Your Next Step: Become the Author of Your Love Life
If you take one thing from Episode 1, let it be this:
You are in charge now.
You get to define what your head, heart, and hoo-ha truly need—and hold out for someone who meets all three.
If you want help getting started, I created a free class that walks you through building your own 3H criteria and using the three-date strategy to stop wasting time:
👉 www.lauriegerber.com/webinar
If Episode 1 resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a fresh start in her love life—and check out Episode 2, where we talk about how your past shapes your dating patterns (and how to stop letting it run the show).
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