Remember When you Thought You’d Never Age?
Growing up on a farm in central Washington, I never dreamed I would be chosen to model for Elite Models in New York City. At age sixteen, I left the farm, and flew to Manhattan to leap into the fantastic and dysfunctional world of being an object of marketing female beauty. I have many great memories from this time period in my life, including working with Albert Watson, Horst, and Patrick Demarchelier- all world-class photographers and artists. This experience also launched me into my current career as a professional makeup artist, and gave me the acumen to manage dealing with high-touch clients like Hilary Clinton and Al Gore. I am forever grateful for my background, and also for the lessons I gleaned from it in self-acceptance and aging with dignity; lessons that the industry plays against in order to sell products and the idea that looking youthful makes you more lovable than normal aging.
Why Plastic Surgery and Botox are a Feminist Issue
Now that I am fifty-three, I focus on loving myself as I age, and telling my body and face how beautiful it is. Botox and plastic surgery are, to me, the diametric opposite of self-love, and need to be entered into with forethought and introspection. With our current #metoo movement, the toxic patriarchal ideal that women are ornaments is beginning to cave. More and more famous women like Jamie Lee Curtis and Meryl Streep are shunning plastic surgery and showing up with all their power and strong voice to herald a new beginning for what it looks like to be a strong female. God bless them. The unreachable ideal of beauty and acceptance for women is losing speed.
Beauty is not in a Bottle
I can say with absolute certainty that beauty isn’t in a bottle, no matter what cosmetic companies tell you. Wake up. We have forgotten what beauty is, and it’s time to remember. Beauty is your essence, and all of you possess it. It is given to every woman under the sun, and it reachable. You don’t need a fancy class or to read a particular book to discover it. It is in your DNA, it is your forever gift granted to the divine female in all of us. It is the Empress, the woman powerful enough to allow her feminine energy to permeate a room and a culture even though it mostly goes unrecognized and sometimes judged. But it is felt. It is gentle, it is loud, it is courageous, and it is light. I encourage all of you to go inward, and ask for this divinity to come forward. Our world needs you and needs your love, kindness, voice, and innate female strength.
Who are YOU as an Empowered Woman?
I believe in female equality and empowerment. You could call me a feminist, as long as that word holds a positive place in your repertoire. Having said that, I also love men and value what the positive masculine brings to the table. In truth, it’s about balance and respect. We are here to bring balance to the force (if you’re a Star Wars fan you’ll appreciate that analogy.) How can you be true to yourself and allow your own feminine power to benefit your own sphere of people? What does it look like for you to lead in a way that honors you, as well as those around you whether or not they do the same? What does it mean for you to step out? I think it starts with self-acceptance and self-love. Love your wrinkles, love your heart, and love your beauty.