Out in the Dating World? Should You Wear Heels on a First Date?
This aricle was written by Lisa Copeland, Love Coach and Dating Expert for women over 50 and author of “The Winning Dating Formula for Women over 50”
I first started dating when I was in my mid 40’s.
Back then; I was dressing like a suburban mom who sits in the stands watching her kids play sports.
My outfits consisted of jeans and black t-shirts.
They came from expensive stores so I thought I was the bomb.
To top my gorgeous outfit off, I wore fake Birkenstocks type sandals on my feet.
Either….black, beige or navy.
What can I say; they were cheaper than the real Birkenstocks so I splurged.
Yes, I was a real fashion maven back then. NOT!!!!!
When I was ready to date, I’d tear through my closet looking for something to wear.
I’d try on every black t-shirt I owned with my jeans and fake Birkenstocks and not one said I feel like a sexy woman excited to date.
I wasn’t getting a lot of second dates back then and I’m sure my clothes weren’t exactly helping!
It took me into my early 50’s to figure out you really want to go on a date feeling girly as in feeling soft and feminine.
Want to know what part of your outfit will make you feel the most girly?
No worries, you don’t need the 6-inch variety to make you feel girly.
2-2½ inch heels can make a big difference in how you feel.
Heels give off a totally different vibe in the way you walk and move than athletic shoes, Uggs or even some flats do.
And men love heels on women.
They think heels make you look sexy!
Let me share a quick story with you about what I mean by all of this.
A private client of mine sent me her profile pictures.
She was wearing a slightly different version of my Soccer Mom outfit…jeans, a long sleeve t-shirt, and cowboy boots.
She told me men weren’t noticing her online.
Remember you have all of 10 seconds to grab a man’s attention with your picture before he moves on to someone else.
This is why it’s so important you show the best you possible in any picture you post.
My client and I worked closely together to boost her inner confidence by helping her get back in touch with how awesome she really was.
And then something cool happened.
Her outside look began changing, as she felt better about who she was on the inside.
She restyled her hair, went to a makeup counter and tried new makeup.
She bought clothes like dresses, skirts, and heels that reflected her feminine side for the first time ever.
She also had new pictures taken and men were jumping hoops to meet her.
Huge difference from the first pictures I’d seen because she was feeling great about herself on the inside and the changes she made on her appearance reflected that!
Using all the dating tools I taught her, she got out there and started dating and today is happily married to an amazing man.
Ok, so back to the original question…do you have to wear heels for a date?
The answer is NO!
But what you do have to do is this….. you want to feel great inside about who you are or nothing you wear will ever feel right.
Get your Inner Sexy on than wear clothes that reflect both the Inner and Outer Beautiful Sexy YOU.
When you feel girly, you come across from that softer side of you.
And as a result, like my private client experienced, men will jump hoops so they can meet you!
Want to know how over 50’s men feel about dating in the second half of their life?
A man named Lee reached out to me to share his frustrations with the over 50’s dating scene.
We did an interview together that I wanted to share with you so you can see what its like to for over 50’s men who are out there trying to find love.
Would love to hear what you think about heels and creating your inner beauty.